You are not ready to love unless you have learned to grieve the illusions of permanence, invulnerability and perfection.
Relationships brought me in touch with a sense of life’s depth and aliveness.
And though I was happiest when exploring, there was always a distant feeling of reservation.
I invested a great deal of time and energy into my spiritual/creative practice. I believed I had spiritual/creative work to do. Yet this part of my life was very carefully protected, and mostly hidden, even from those who I was closest to.
It felt strange to me that I should feel compelled to hide such an intimate part of who I was in my relationships.
This "split" belief kept attracting all kinds of experiences that were "disconnected" on some level. As long as I kept this aspect of myself "invisible" the more the unconscious pattern of invisible disconnection revealed itself.
Eventually, I decided to take a good look at this "invisible" "distant" "reservation". With incredible support from a community of healers, teachers and guides I was able to enter this deeper process of my own healing.
I realized that in order to face my fears I needed to feel safe, appreciated and loved. And in order to learn how to trust myself in relationship I needed to notice how and where I mistrusted.
As I began to hold a healing space for myself, I was able to embrace both shadow and light together. I was able to finally feel, hear, know and honor what was deeply true and good for me.
From this inner embodied awareness I was able to grow my capacity to hold an authentic space of presence for myself and others in relationship.
The ability to hold an authentic boundary from within myself while keeping my heart open to receive another was the essential key that supported my internal growth and ignited my interpersonal transformation.
My professional work expanded, my business grew and my relationships got better (much better!). I discovered the regenerative spaces of love and connection within myself and dramatically shifted the way I was able to relate with others.
Every time an interaction became an opportunity to allow more of my authentic self into relationship, my relationships became a sacred container for my experience of JOY.
I began to trust myself and allow my sensitive empathic nature to guide me. I was able to give and receive love, attention, time and energy in a more balanced way because I understood what I needed to stay present in the exchange.
This inner connection to my Self greatly expanded my capacity to feel genuine love, understanding and compassion for others.
When we begin to understand that our longing for love is shared universally we gain access to the virtues of humility and forgiveness. If we try only to understand relationship from an intellectual point of view, we will surely miss the teachings the deep feeling heart has to offer us.
I believe more and more women feel a collective shift to embrace their power in relationships. Now more than ever women are bringing their truth, wisdom and authentic leadership to what needs healing in their work and their relationships.
I believe now more than ever there is a need for a new vision for love and a deeper, more embodied sense of understanding of how we can transform (and uplift) our relationships as an essential part of our individual and collective healing.
If you are ready to create a radical shift in your relationships, seeking to explore the deeper level of your own healing and would like to connect with a community of conscious women on a similar path contact me for a no obligation complimentary 60-min phone session.
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May Your Heart Continually Open In Love.
PS. Pass this on to someone you love who is looking for Love and wanting to create more Joy in their experience of Relationship.