This passage on Heartbreak by David Whyte touches me in so many ways.
Yesterday I had the fortune of attending a meditation class and bathing in guided relaxation. Afterwards the teacher read this passage by David Whyte from his book Consolations.
A beautiful and poignant reminder of the nature to our human experience and the deep capacity we have for loving.
May it reach your heart in time and offer the gift of tenderness and of patience.⠀
“Heartbreak is unpreventable; the natural outcome of caring for people and things over which we have no control, of holding in our affections those who inevitably move beyond our line of sight.⠀
Heartbreak begins the moment we are asked to let go but cannot, in other words, it colors and in habits and magnifies each and every day; heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow through even the most average life. Heartbreak is an indication of our sincerity: in a love relationship, in a life’s work, in trying to learn a musical instrument, in the attempt to shape a better more generous self. Heartbreak is the beautifully helpless side of love and affection and is just as much an essence and emblem of care as the spiritual athlete’s quick but abstract ability to let go. Heartbreak has its own way of inhabiting time and it’s own beautiful and trying patience in coming and going.⠀
Heartbreak is how we mature;...⠀
Realizing it’s inescapable nature, we can see heartbreak not as the end of the road or cessation of hope but as the close embrace of what we have wanted or are about to lose. It’s the hidden DNA of our relationship to life ... grounding us truly in whatever grief we are experiencing, ... planting the seed with what we have left or appreciate what we have built even as we stand in its ruins... Heartbreak asks us not to look for an alternative path, because there is no alternative path. It is an introduction to what we love and have loved, an inescapable and often beautiful question, something and someone that has been with us all along, asking us to be ready for the ultimate letting go.”
- David Whyte, Consolations